Welp. I think I am going to pass on Thanksgiving back to NY this year. With the way Indiana numbers are trending, and Thanksgiving being a fairly large gathering, I just don't feel comfortable with that many people being present. I'm instead going to drive down and see my aunt and uncle in AR. Yes, not a great alternative for lower covid numbers, but my aunt has been working remotely for the past 7+ months and my uncle is a city employee who has been following their strict guidelines, so I feel like they won't have it/won't give it to me. Their celebration was only going to be them and my aunt's mother, since their kids won't be traveling (one had a baby, one just bought a house, and the other is teaching at a university and can't travel due to their policy).
I will be traveling home in December, unless a state of emergency is enacted. Christmas is more laid back with my family, not as big of a gathering, so I feel like I could see my grandparents in more of a controlled atmosphere of just me/them/my immediate family where I can maintain some space and remain fully masked since I won't be eating as much. My dad understood...my mom was a little upset about me not coming, but I should be able to stretch that December vacation to almost 2 weeks if I don't come out for Thanksgiving.