Sometimes you just need to scream!!!

[NJmike PE]

we thought the neighbor was just keeping his dog inside for the winter. Found out yesterday that she died this winter. She frequently wandered off with one of the other dogs in the neighborhood so when she didn't come home they first thought she was snatched. Once the snow/ice thawed farmers found her body in a pond and called him. She must have fallen through the ice while playing.

That's absolutely horrible. Sorry to hear

 

[snickerd3]

we thought the neighbor was just keeping his dog inside for the winter. Found out yesterday that she died this winter. She frequently wandered off with one of the other dogs in the neighborhood so when she didn't come home they first thought she was snatched. Once the snow/ice thawed farmers found her body in a pond and called him. She must have fallen through the ice while playing.

That's absolutely horrible. Sorry to hear

She was a truely a sweet dog...not ours but she would spend hours with us while we were outside on the weekends.

 

[matt267 PE]

we thought the neighbor was just keeping his dog inside for the winter. Found out yesterday that she died this winter. She frequently wandered off with one of the other dogs in the neighborhood so when she didn't come home they first thought she was snatched. Once the snow/ice thawed farmers found her body in a pond and called him. She must have fallen through the ice while playing.

Poor pup.

 

[Supe]

I have so much less than zero motivation to be here right now. It is GORGEOUS out, and I've got a motor to pull!

 

[MA_PE]

Our 2013 Nissan Altima has a 14" crack in the windshield originating from the bottom center and branching out symmetrically on either side. Kind of looks like the Texas longhorns symbol. The dealer claims there was an impact that occurred between the two wiper blades. Interestingly, another car arrived at the same time with the exact same defect, and a little "impact point" at the exact same location as mine. The dealer made a stupid comment about whether we're driving behind the same trucks, but basically I'm SOL to get it replaced under warranty.

Looked it up online and there are tons of Nissan owners with the same issue. So how does one go about initiating a class action lawsuit?

Not sure about the lawsuit part, but do you have any repair services like this?

If you have comprehensive insurance coverage, windshield might be fully covered with no deductible because it's a safety item. I had mine replaced through safelite (twice actually) no problem and no deductible. they handled everything with the insurance company and they come to you and fix it in your driveway or the parking lot at work. Pretty painless.

 

[blybrook PE]

Bought winter tires in October (studded) and found two worn past usable life yesterday when switching back to summer tires (6 months & 13k miles later). Over 50% of the studs were missing along as being down to ~40% tread remaining. No tire should wear that fast under normal use and loading over a single season!

Shop tells me I'm at fault for putting them on a 1ton truck (tires are load range E) and running them at sidewall pressure! As well as not rotating the tires every 7500 miles! Who the hell does that??

The shop that sold the tires to me also did the install & told me they were the best ones for the truck at the time along with the recommended tire pressure! Now I've gotta shell out for a new set of tires to keep them matched!

Manager might relent and replace them both for the cost of 1 providing he can still get this particular model, but I'm not holding my breath. I'll take this option if I can, mainly because I did use the tires and I don't expect them to replace them for nothing unless its a proven defect.

The front tires still looked new! I'm thinking a bad batch or lot, but it'll be their call when its said and done.

 

[Road Guy]

I've gotten so many bum tires the last 10 years its not even funny, not sure if its due to all the tires made overseas These days or what!

 

[engineergurl]

I have not put new tires on the jeep.... well, since I bought it. You would be AMAZED at the tires you can get at the used tire places in a military town. All the Joes are jacking up their brand new trucks or putting rims on their cars and the used tire places have virtually brand new tires. I also used to have a tendency to pick up anything and every thing that could puncture a tire on a construction site, so I never saw any point in buying good tires when I was going to have to replace one or get it plugged in a month or two anyway.

 

[Road Guy]

I had a set of Procomp tires on my jeep the jeep to Jeeps ago those were some good tires they lasted 5 years under a lot of abuse held up their tread great

 

[Dexman PE PMP]

Used tires are a great option if you have a fairly common sized tire. I usually have to order my tires a week in advance because so few places have tires that fit Bee (both size and speed rating).

 

[blybrook PE]

I've run used tires for years on other rigs. My plow truck is on a set now. When I was getting the winter tires, the used selection was down to nothing, so had to go new.

Next time, I'm gonna make the drive to see my old tire shop; they've never steered me wrong and always cut me a deal.

 

[snickerd3]

is it lunch time yet?

 

[NJmike PE]

Ok, so this is gonna be REAL long winded but I need to get this $h!t off my chest because I'm ready to spit in my MIL's face. Back in 2010, Mrs NJ's mother offered to watch #1 for us after she was born, while Mrs NJ went back to work. One stipulation was that we had to pay her being that she had no income. We agreed upon $200/week. Mrs NJ worked 4 days a week. At first we would split the commute; 2 days at our house 2 days there. The commute was/is about 20 mi. For me to drop off there and make it to work on time, it entailed leaving at 0700, sitting in rush hour AM traffic, getting there by 0730 and then eventually getting to the office by 0830. This commute was 40 mi in the opposite direction (20 there and 20 back) because my office is 15 mins from my house. Yet I did this everyday.

Fast forward from 2010 to 2013. In that time, we had #2, and just found out about #3. MIL was still watching #1 and now #2. Still getting paid the same amount. I was now making this commute EVERY morning on the days that Mrs NJ worked, and she was picking up. We were told when Mrs NJ became pg with #3 that MIL could not watch all three and that we needed to plan accordingly. Concurrently, we had just saved bout $460/mo in mortgage payments through a loan mod. So the question because can we survive on my income alone. Early on, I set up a detailed spreadsheet and monitored our income and expenditures. Long story short, We could on a very tight budget make it. So problem solved. At this point it was just December and the kid was about to pop out. We informed her that Mrs NJ was going to stay home full-time with the kids, beginning in a week. We also informed her that we would continue to pay her for 4 months (Dec-March). Being that she had no other source of income. That way she could continue to look for a job with some kind of income. Did she? No. Was she happy that her daughter could be a SAHM like she wanted to; like she always asked me if there was any way of making it happen? No. In fact, she accused us of just kicking her to the curb now we don't need her. This in and of itself "hurt her so deeply" (QFT according to her).

So now it is the beginning of April. I tell Mrs. NJ that she needs to remind MIL that her that on 4/4 she will receive her final payment. Well, that didn't go well.

She accused us of lying to her about how long we could promised to pay her for, citing that we told her including April. Now, this I know not to be ever true. Said spreadsheet above, was developed based on a single income. Mrs NJ waited until her disability and FLA benefits had expired before notifying her employer that she would not be returning to work. That way Mrs NJ would have some kind of income from which we could continue to use to "help" (QFT according to me) her mom. Those benefits were all done ending in March. So, there is no way I would have ever committed to something that I couldn't afford. Yet we screwed her.

Now the end of April, she is still badgering/bullying her daughter. Leaving her to feel endless guilt when in reality she is the one who never did $h!t to help her own cause by waiting until the last minute to even think about looking for work she claims that she was going to begin looking during April.... still hasn't :dunno:

She also refuses to take this fight to me because she knows that this BS doesn't fly with me and I would put her in her place yesterday.

So at what point to I make it my problem and cut the legs out from under this biatch?

 

[engineergurl]

Ok, so this is gonna be REAL long winded but I need to get this $h!t off my chest because I'm ready to spit in my MIL's face. Back in 2010, Mrs NJ's mother offered to watch #1 for us after she was born, while Mrs NJ went back to work. One stipulation was that we had to pay her being that she had no income. We agreed upon $200/week. Mrs NJ worked 4 days a week. At first we would split the commute; 2 days at our house 2 days there. The commute was/is about 20 mi. For me to drop off there and make it to work on time, it entailed leaving at 0700, sitting in rush hour AM traffic, getting there by 0730 and then eventually getting to the office by 0830. This commute was 40 mi in the opposite direction (20 there and 20 back) because my office is 15 mins from my house. Yet I did this everyday.

Fast forward from 2010 to 2013. In that time, we had #2, and just found out about #3. MIL was still watching #1 and now #2. Still getting paid the same amount. I was now making this commute EVERY morning on the days that Mrs NJ worked, and she was picking up. We were told when Mrs NJ became pg with #3 that MIL could not watch all three and that we needed to plan accordingly. Concurrently, we had just saved bout $460/mo in mortgage payments through a loan mod. So the question because can we survive on my income alone. Early on, I set up a detailed spreadsheet and monitored our income and expenditures. Long story short, We could on a very tight budget make it. So problem solved. At this point it was just December and the kid was about to pop out. We informed her that Mrs NJ was going to stay home full-time with the kids, beginning in a week. We also informed her that we would continue to pay her for 4 months (Dec-March). Being that she had no other source of income. That way she could continue to look for a job with some kind of income. Did she? No. Was she happy that her daughter could be a SAHM like she wanted to; like she always asked me if there was any way of making it happen? No. In fact, she accused us of just kicking her to the curb now we don't need her. This in and of itself "hurt her so deeply" (QFT according to her).

So now it is the beginning of April. I tell Mrs. NJ that she needs to remind MIL that her that on 4/4 she will receive her final payment. Well, that didn't go well.

She accused us of lying to her about how long we could promised to pay her for, citing that we told her including April. Now, this I know not to be ever true. Said spreadsheet above, was developed based on a single income. Mrs NJ waited until her disability and FLA benefits had expired before notifying her employer that she would not be returning to work. That way Mrs NJ would have some kind of income from which we could continue to use to "help" (QFT according to me) her mom. Those benefits were all done ending in March. So, there is no way I would have ever committed to something that I couldn't afford. Yet we screwed her.

Now the end of April, she is still badgering/bullying her daughter. Leaving her to feel endless guilt when in reality she is the one who never did $h!t to help her own cause by waiting until the last minute to even think about looking for work she claims that she was going to begin looking during April.... still hasn't :dunno:

She also refuses to take this fight to me because she knows that this BS doesn't fly with me and I would put her in her place yesterday.

So at what point to I make it my problem and cut the legs out from under this biatch?

depends on your wife

 

[NJmike PE]

Ok, so this is gonna be REAL long winded but I need to get this $h!t off my chest because I'm ready to spit in my MIL's face. Back in 2010, Mrs NJ's mother offered to watch #1 for us after she was born, while Mrs NJ went back to work. One stipulation was that we had to pay her being that she had no income. We agreed upon $200/week. Mrs NJ worked 4 days a week. At first we would split the commute; 2 days at our house 2 days there. The commute was/is about 20 mi. For me to drop off there and make it to work on time, it entailed leaving at 0700, sitting in rush hour AM traffic, getting there by 0730 and then eventually getting to the office by 0830. This commute was 40 mi in the opposite direction (20 there and 20 back) because my office is 15 mins from my house. Yet I did this everyday.

Fast forward from 2010 to 2013. In that time, we had #2, and just found out about #3. MIL was still watching #1 and now #2. Still getting paid the same amount. I was now making this commute EVERY morning on the days that Mrs NJ worked, and she was picking up. We were told when Mrs NJ became pg with #3 that MIL could not watch all three and that we needed to plan accordingly. Concurrently, we had just saved bout $460/mo in mortgage payments through a loan mod. So the question because can we survive on my income alone. Early on, I set up a detailed spreadsheet and monitored our income and expenditures. Long story short, We could on a very tight budget make it. So problem solved. At this point it was just December and the kid was about to pop out. We informed her that Mrs NJ was going to stay home full-time with the kids, beginning in a week. We also informed her that we would continue to pay her for 4 months (Dec-March). Being that she had no other source of income. That way she could continue to look for a job with some kind of income. Did she? No. Was she happy that her daughter could be a SAHM like she wanted to; like she always asked me if there was any way of making it happen? No. In fact, she accused us of just kicking her to the curb now we don't need her. This in and of itself "hurt her so deeply" (QFT according to her).

So now it is the beginning of April. I tell Mrs. NJ that she needs to remind MIL that her that on 4/4 she will receive her final payment. Well, that didn't go well.

She accused us of lying to her about how long we could promised to pay her for, citing that we told her including April. Now, this I know not to be ever true. Said spreadsheet above, was developed based on a single income. Mrs NJ waited until her disability and FLA benefits had expired before notifying her employer that she would not be returning to work. That way Mrs NJ would have some kind of income from which we could continue to use to "help" (QFT according to me) her mom. Those benefits were all done ending in March. So, there is no way I would have ever committed to something that I couldn't afford. Yet we screwed her.

Now the end of April, she is still badgering/bullying her daughter. Leaving her to feel endless guilt when in reality she is the one who never did $h!t to help her own cause by waiting until the last minute to even think about looking for work she claims that she was going to begin looking during April.... still hasn't :dunno:

She also refuses to take this fight to me because she knows that this BS doesn't fly with me and I would put her in her place yesterday.

So at what point to I make it my problem and cut the legs out from under this biatch?

depends on your wife

well, my wife had a fight to end all fights today and has pretty much written her off. So I guess that's my answer.

 

[matt267 PE]

yikes.

Too much drama. You're probably better off without the MIL. I don't think anyone needs that in their lives. Hopefully you and your wife stay strong and united.

 

[snickerd3]

you are a good person for the extra 4 months pay even though your wife was home

 

[NJmike PE]

yikes.

Too much drama. You're probably better off without the MIL. I don't think anyone needs that in their lives. Hopefully you and your wife stay strong and united.

That's just it! My wife swears that MIL is trying to pick fights just to cause problems between us.

you are a good person for the extra 4 months pay even though your wife was home

I thought so too. Many told me that I was nuts, esp since she really didn't do a damn thing to help out w/ #3 after birth. I'm pretty sure I could have put that extra $2400 to better use.

 

[snickerd3]

having family around to babysit occassionally would be nice, but I don't know if i could handle family watching minisnick during the week. it is nice to have an independent 3rd party do that work too so there is family harmony.

 

[MA_PE]

Sounds like MIL needs to acknowledge that she became completely dependent on income from watching her grandkids. It's tough for anybody to take a $800/month hit, but like you said she certainly has a responsibility to stand on her on two feet. Based on your narrative MIL should be contrite with you and not angry, especially when she told you she was not prepared to handle #3. What are you supposed to do hire her an assistant?

Lots of drama Mike. Best wishes to you and the Mrs to weather the storm.