I don't know, Fudgey. Many girls I know appreciate a man who moves a little faster. You don't want to give the impression that you're too nice. Too nice = boring in the sack. She might wander off to one of your friends during beers at the bar. And that would suck for you (believe me!)
I say go ahead, cook her dinner at her place, but try to get her hammered. Wine is good, just keep filling it up for her. Even better, try to get her to down some mixed drinks. Make mudslides - fun to make, tasty to drink, and before she knows it, she's seriously buzzed!
Whatever happens after that happens. Just let it happen at her pace, and be careful not to make an *** of yourself.
Here's how Dleg makes a Mudslide:
In a blender, mix equal parts Baily's Irish Creme, Kahlua, and Vodka with ice. Prepare glass with a little chocolate syrup, swirled along the inside.
I don't know. I never had much success with the ladies. But this is my :2cents: