Road Guy
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Well its about that time of the year again, no not actual holiday season, but the planning for holiday season.
This is probably going to sound like sour grapes, but this is the “situation” we run into every year about visiting family during the hellidays.
We had our first kid about 10 years ago, back then my wife’s brothers were not married, and had better things to do than visit during the holidays, which was fine with me, I couldn’t really stand to be around them anyways, but we would extend an invitation to try and get together, which was normally replied to with, we will be in Cancun, out of the country, doing something better, etc, etc, etc, This went on for about 7 years..
So fast forward to last year when both of the wife’s brothers have their first kids, one of her brothers adopted two kids, then had one of their own, so they are in the same boat we were 9 years ago. However our kids are getting old enough to do stuff so were going away for Thanksgiving and we just want to “ be left alone” during Christmas, the wife works nights and its going to be a weird xmas this year since she is working Christmas eve.
Anyways.. to sum it up last year and this year we have politely tried to tell everyone that we don’t (cant) want to get together during the holidays. They are all staying the week of Christmas in Florida with one of my brother in laws (The Doctor!), which isn’t my idea of fun unless I am leaving at 0500 every morning to fish for the whole day.
Now I am a heartless bastard so it doesn’t bother me, but the wife is starting to get feelings that somehow we are being “rude” by shrugging them off all the time, I try and point out that when they didn’t have babies / kids they didn’t have time for us, so now that our kids are a good deal older and capable of “travel” somewhat, we should spend the holidays doing what we want to do and to basically screw them.
I am sure this same story unfolds in most every house in America during the holidays but Christmas has just become a major groan lately..
This is probably going to sound like sour grapes, but this is the “situation” we run into every year about visiting family during the hellidays.
We had our first kid about 10 years ago, back then my wife’s brothers were not married, and had better things to do than visit during the holidays, which was fine with me, I couldn’t really stand to be around them anyways, but we would extend an invitation to try and get together, which was normally replied to with, we will be in Cancun, out of the country, doing something better, etc, etc, etc, This went on for about 7 years..
So fast forward to last year when both of the wife’s brothers have their first kids, one of her brothers adopted two kids, then had one of their own, so they are in the same boat we were 9 years ago. However our kids are getting old enough to do stuff so were going away for Thanksgiving and we just want to “ be left alone” during Christmas, the wife works nights and its going to be a weird xmas this year since she is working Christmas eve.
Anyways.. to sum it up last year and this year we have politely tried to tell everyone that we don’t (cant) want to get together during the holidays. They are all staying the week of Christmas in Florida with one of my brother in laws (The Doctor!), which isn’t my idea of fun unless I am leaving at 0500 every morning to fish for the whole day.
Now I am a heartless bastard so it doesn’t bother me, but the wife is starting to get feelings that somehow we are being “rude” by shrugging them off all the time, I try and point out that when they didn’t have babies / kids they didn’t have time for us, so now that our kids are a good deal older and capable of “travel” somewhat, we should spend the holidays doing what we want to do and to basically screw them.
I am sure this same story unfolds in most every house in America during the holidays but Christmas has just become a major groan lately..