Expecting

[Dark Knight]

"The Talk" is definitely something that every parent should consider as part of parenting. The weight of the world comes down on your shoulders when you have the responsibility of "The Talk". And the "after the talk" continues for many years.

This is another aspect my not so kids anymore surprised me. I had "The Talk" with the oldest and the middle one. Both boys. It was a nice experience since they had serious and mature questions. With my daughter I did not have "The Talk" but when she is concerned about something or any question she will ask me right away.

I remember a day I came back from work very tired. She came, sat in my lap and gave me her best smile. At that point I knew she wanted something so I asked. With an incredible poise she just told me she needed me to go to the pharmacy or the supermarket to buy her "something". But my favorite is when she tells me that she is in one of these days and I better leave her alone. She can be very cranky.

 

[maryannette]

That's impressive, BIO. I hope a lot of dads are like that.

 

[frazil]

Sapper returning reminded me that I got pregnant with our second child the very day my husband returned from his overseas tour. Careful Sapper, unless you're looking for more kids, in which case, go ahead because they're potent!

 

[FLBuff PE]

My wife is in full blown baby-fever right now. In order to maximize her time off work (she's off summers) we need to get horizontal in August or September so Ive got about 8 months to go.

My wife is also a teacher, and VERY organized. She had the whole thing planned out. Get pregnant in late May, have baby at end of February, Cruise into summer. She stopped the pill in May, and sure enough, her planning worked! I would not be surprised if she had it in her planner that way. Oh well. I'm just glad that everything is going as well as it is!

 

[TouchDown]

My wife has told me from Fertility books she has read that some women "rebound" after going off the pill... Meaning, their body's hormones / cycle changes that first month and almost guarantees an ovulation. We were told by the dr.s when we were having trouble getting pregnant to wait a few months after she went off the pill though.

As far as finding out the sex, we've never had any reservations. My wife get's an ultrasound every other week anyway, so if anything's flashing - it's pretty easy to see. We just had another one today (16 weeks) and everything was in good shape. Doc is still concerned she's going to have previa so we'll see if she can do a VBAC (vaginal birth after ceserian).

My wife always says the pregnancy with our first was by far the easiest. She's even pretty proud that she took no drugs / epidural / anything. And she didn't even let out a peep, didn't gain weight, or have any negatives with regard to pregnancy/birth. I guess that's cause we adopted. Ha!

 

[FLBuff PE]

My wife has told me from Fertility books she has read that some women "rebound" after going off the pill... Meaning, their body's hormones / cycle changes that first month and almost guarantees an ovulation. We were told by the dr.s when we were having trouble getting pregnant to wait a few months after she went off the pill though.
As far as finding out the sex, we've never had any reservations. My wife get's an ultrasound every other week anyway, so if anything's flashing - it's pretty easy to see. We just had another one today (16 weeks) and everything was in good shape. Doc is still concerned she's going to have previa so we'll see if she can do a VBAC (vaginal birth after ceserian).

My wife always says the pregnancy with our first was by far the easiest. She's even pretty proud that she took no drugs / epidural / anything. And she didn't even let out a peep, didn't gain weight, or have any negatives with regard to pregnancy/birth. I guess that's cause we adopted. Ha!

You had me going there, TD! :laugh: Congrats on the good news from the utrasound. Hopefully evrything progresses well. And here's hoping this pregnancy and delivery is as easy as the first!

 

[ktulu]

Have you guys thought about what you are going to get as a hospital gift after the birth? I'm leaning towards something with the birthstone - amethyst for February unless something REALLY drastic happens betwen now and midnight. Amethyst is perfect b/c I painted the nursery a light shade of purple.

 

[frazil]

We got each other a kick-ass coffee maker.

 

[ktulu]

We got each other a kick-ass coffee maker.

I am going with jewelry b/c I can't find "It doesn't matter" :mellow:

 

[maryannette]

I never got a hospital gift, but I think it's a very nice idea.

 

[TouchDown]

What's a hospital gift? Kind of news to me. Our gift from the hospital was usually a $400 puke pan.

 

[FLBuff PE]

I'm gonna get my wife a post-partum gift. Necklace from an online vendor that I think looks really cool. My post-prtum gift will be the child, as it will be right around my big 3-0 day! :th_rockon:

 

[cement]

My son was my 30th birthday present too!

The nurses sang Happy Birthday over the intercom and gave me a cupcake!

 

[C-Dog]

Ask to keep the placenta. Take it home and plant it with a new tree.

 

[Chucktown PE]

This thread has been very entertaining. My wife and I have a 23 month old son and just had a baby girl on January 10th. I haven't posted in a while due to the lack of sleep and whatnot. I figured that two kids would be double the work of one kid. Our son has been very easy so I thought two kids would be smooth sailing. Not so. Two kids is exponentially more exhausting than one.

Congrats to all of those expecting. Ours weren't planned and the engineer in me was totally flipped out when I found out my wife was pregnant both times. I literally had a spreadsheet where I planned that we would start having kids around this time next year. The spreadsheet said we were going to be debt free and my wife could quit working. Long story short, my wife still quit working because she was a wreck with our son in daycare and life is good. My company is also moving us to Charleston,SC within the next two months so we are sort of busy with a baby, selling a house, buying a new house, starting a new project, closing out an old project, and moving. I only offer that as an encouragement to the new parents out there. If you are ever feeling stressed out with the new babies, just think of me. Utter freaking chaos.

 

[Chucktown PE]

And one more thing. That is not a $400 puke pan, its like a $12000 puke pan. I hope you are ready to start shelling out the bucks, and the hospital bill is just the beginning.

 

[maryannette]

But, there is nothing that will ever give you the joy in life that a child will.

Headache, financial worries, sleepless nights, and everything else get wiped out in a split second when you see a child that you have nurtured do something that makes you proud.

 

[Chucktown PE]

But, there is nothing that will ever give you the joy in life that a child will.Headache, financial worries, sleepless nights, and everything else get wiped out in a split second when you see a child that you have nurtured do something that makes you proud.

I guess my previous post sounded a little negative but maryannette is right on. I can't imagine my life without those two now. Coming home from work is one of the best parts of the day now. With my son, I keep thinking that whatever age he is at the present time is the most fun so I guess that continues until they are grown.

 

[ktulu]

Congratulations on the new addition, Boyd.

Back to the gift for the new mom, I'm looking at something like this:

 

[Chucktown PE]

I bought my wife earrings with my son's birthstone when my son was born. He was born March 1st so if he had arrived a few hours earlier I would have botched the job. My wife never wore them. I didn't get her anything this time, partly because we are on a shoestring budget, partly because I think she would rather see the money spent on the kiddies, and partly because she wouldn't wear another set of earrings if I did buy them.