Capt Worley PE
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Pretty demoralizing.
http://www.wsav.com/story/22167802/1-nc-city-2-in-sc-among-tops-for-unmarried-moms
Out of wedlock births
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cdcengineer
Sharp as a piece of beach glass
If they're poor trash, who would want to marry them?
Dexman PE PMP
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Does it count as "out of wedlock" if a married woman gets knocked up by the milkman?
snickerd3
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lots of baby out of wedlock around these parts....but hey whatever floats you boat.
Judowolf PE
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I think that is ruled by state law...but in Misery(Missouri) the father of the child is the husband of the mother no matter who the biological father...I think they even go so far as to make the husband pay child support even if he proves he is not the actual father and the couple gets divorced, isn't that some sh%t!
Capt Worley PE
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I know that's a bitter pill for you to swallow.
Judowolf PE
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nah, if she had swallowed the pill this wouldn't be an issue
Judowolf PE
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lol...I didn't say I had this issue, just that I believe that MO law works this way, or used to
cdcengineer
Sharp as a piece of beach glass
State more readily pays for the births if the mother is single and on welfare. Pays to hold off on marriage.
MGX
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Low investment children are the wave of the future.
csb
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I knew a girl in college who became pregnant out of wedlock. She let me know, "They pay you a LOT of money for college once you have a baby. It's totally worth it!" 19-year-old csb enjoyed napping and virginity way too much to buy that line of BS.
snickerd3
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^ our Family Dr's youngest daughter got knocked up during her sophomore yr in highschool...it's amusing because it was during the time I was pregnant with minisnick he was going on about hoping his own kids would avoid the small town teenage motherhood thing. He found out not long after that he was going to be grandpa. 2 of the 3 made it. His wife watches the kid while his daughter goes to high school. She is a senior this year and top of her class....so it can happen to anyone.
Capt Worley PE
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It wasn't so long ago that such a situation would most likely end in an abortion or a mysterious trip to visit relatives (aka birth and putting the kid up for adoption).
I honestly think the adoption route is generally best for everyone involved, but society doesn't always do as I think it should.
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Dexman PE PMP
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The issue with adoption is that the entire process is so heavily regulated and full of red tape, the government has essentially pushed a lot of quality potential adoptors out of "the market" and the children (if not adopted as a baby) end up in the system for life as a fostor child.
Capt Worley PE
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^^Sadly, very true.
Honestly, I was there to see the dramatic societal shift, and I'd say it happened in the late eighties. It would explain a lot if the increase in red tape happened at the same time.
Honestly, I was there to see the dramatic societal shift, and I'd say it happened in the late eighties. It would explain a lot if the increase in red tape happened at the same time.
We've had a couple of people at my work go overseas (Russia) for adoption due to this. That and they always had the fear of the mother coming back for her children after xx years.
Dexman PE PMP
Internationally PMP'n his PE-ness
I've had family members go through the adoption process for a little boy (4yrs old at the time) who was removed from a very abusive family environment. Even with the government's help and their insistance the boy be removed from the family, it took a couple years to get everything finalized. I could only imagine what the process would be like if the gubmet wasn't on your side...
